Couples Therapy

I work with partners and couples across all relationship structures, addressing challenges such as:

Communication and conflict resolution
Building and sustaining emotional connection
Navigating transitions and life changes — cohabitation, marriage, parenthood, midlife reassessment
Rebuilding trust and repairing connection after an affair or breach
Sexual concerns, desire discrepancies, and reigniting intimacy
Recurring patterns of conflict, criticism, or emotional withdrawal
Identity shifts within a long-term relationship — a partner coming out, transitioning, or otherwise changing in meaningful ways
Adjusting to non-monogamy, polyamory, or shifts in your relationship structure
Considering separation and wanting to make a thoughtful, intentional decision

I help couples uncover unhelpful patterns, communicate more effectively, and reconnect on a deeper emotional level. My style is direct, compassionate, and practical, supporting each partner to express vulnerability, understand their impact, and make lasting changes in how they relate. Many couples I work with are ready to heal but find themselves repeating cycles of conflict or avoidance. Together, we identify those patterns, foster emotional openness, and create the conditions for renewed intimacy and long-term satisfaction.

My approach to couples work

My work with couples integrates emotionally focused therapy (EFT), the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, with a grounding in psychodynamic theory. In practice, this means we are doing several things at once: identifying the recurring cycle that keeps the two of you stuck, working with the vulnerable emotions and bids for connection that often sit underneath conflict, and exploring the developmental and historical roots that make this particular dynamic so easy for the two of you to fall into. It also asks each partner to identify their own roles in the dynamic and work towards individual goals to support the partnership. Importantly, my approach allows space for each individual partner to understand themselves better, and to learn to tolerate the differences that lead to conflict and disconnection. This approach combines practical tools for communication with deeper insight into the underlying patterns driving disconnection.

What sessions look like

Couples sessions are 80 minutes rather than the standard 50. Fifty minutes is often enough time to open a difficult conversation, but rarely enough time to do something meaningful with it. With 80 minutes, we have room to identify what's happening, slow it down, and work toward a different place than where we began.

I ask couples to commit to weekly or biweekly sessions. Couples work builds slowly and depends on consistency to interrupt patterns that have often been in place for years; sporadic sessions tend not to generate the momentum needed for lasting change.

Sessions are available in person at my office in Uptown Denver, near Capitol Hill and City Park, or via secure video for clients located anywhere in Colorado. I am also licensed in Massachusetts and can meet with couples in that state online.

A note for queer couples and non-monogamous partnerships

Couples therapy that assumes a heteronormative, monogamous default isn't a fit for every relationship. My values and clinical training orient me toward affirming queer, trans, non-binary, polyamorous, and non-monogamous partnerships as legitimate, complex, and deserving of the same depth of care as any other relationship structure. You do not have to spend our early sessions teaching me your vocabulary or justifying the shape of your relationship.

What change can look like

Relationships can be both deeply rewarding and profoundly challenging. They are often where we experience our greatest pain and our greatest potential for healing. When we feel unseen or disconnected, anxiety and hopelessness can follow. When we feel understood and emotionally attuned, we feel grounded and safe.Couples work is based on each unique relationship's goals and desires. Couples who engage seriously in this work over time often describe a relationship that feels meaningfully different: more honest, less reactive, more connected. For some couples, the work clarifies that staying together is the right path forward. For others, it clarifies the opposite and offers the tools to part with more care and integrity than would otherwise be possible.

Getting started

I offer a free 20-minute consultation so you and your partner can ask questions, describe what's bringing you to therapy, and get a sense of whether I am the right fit. Couples sessions are $300 / 80 minutes. I am a private-pay practice and am not in-network with insurance, though I can provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement depending on your insurance.

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